Having a Child in College vs Military from a mom of both………
Many people do NOT think about the difference on families of kids in College vs Military…often people assume they are the same…often people have never taken the time to think about the differences…often people assume one is better than the other…often people take the simple things for granted…often people say hurtful things in comparing one to the other but may not realize it…often people feel hurt by what others say because those saying it do not understand that there is a HUGE difference between the two…often people do not realize at how their comments may offend another greatly and be taken personally towards their child and family regardless of their choice, College or Military. I myself did not realize the differences and had never even thought about it until I went through both. I am trying NOT to offend anyone but rather inform anyone whom may not have thought about some of the similarities vs differences in hopes to help spare anyone’s feelings in the future. This is just my opinion and how I see it as a Mom.
When a kid goes off to College and leaves the nest it is sad, tough and sometimes hard to accept but yet you are proud and happy for them to be going out on their own and to be working toward a degree. You worry and wonder how they are doing and wonder what they are not telling you about. However, you can call and talk to them everyday….you can text back and forth any time of day…..you can go visit them and get a hug anytime you want….you can have them home for the Holidays and as often as they want……you can tell them about the funny things or call just to hear their voice, YOU have access to your child 24 hours a day!!!
When a kid goes off and into the Military and leaves the nest it is again sad, tough and sometimes hard to accept but yet you are proud and happy for them to be going out on their own and that they have chosen to Serve their Country, they have signed on the dotted line that is equivalent to them writing a blank check of up to and including their lives. You worry and wonder throughout Bootcamp how they are doing and wonder if they are being completely honest on how they’re doing…..if and when you hear from them as typically weeks go by and then you receive a handwritten letter that they might be able to write once a week with the possibility of a quick call if you are lucky but typically only if they need information from you so it’s short and to the point if and when they call. AFTER Bootcamp they head off to Schooling where they have their phones once again and you can call and talk to them everyday if they are not out in the field, you can text back and forth anytime of day if they are not on Watch Duty after class, you may get them home for the Holidays and at any time if they are granted leave, you can tell them about the funny things or call just to hear their voice except when they are Deployed and far away, YOU have limited access to your child that varies greatly throughout the year.
There is a difference between the two and they should all be respected for their choices. PLEASE be kind in your words, respect the choices that have been made and try to be understanding of what others may be going through regardless wether it’s College or Military…..Heartache, Love, Pride & Worries are felt for both.
Sincerely and Thanks for Reading my Thoughts, Robin Robinson