On June 18, 1993 I started working at Safeway in Spokane, WA. This is the day I also met my husband, Terry. I still remember vividly walking into the backroom to finish stocking the dairy cooler and there to my right sat a handsome guy with jet black hair, a beautiful grin, wearing black pants with a white button up shirt sitting on the steps leading to the break room just waiting for his shift to begin. For the first time in my short 18 years I had the weirdest feeling throughout my whole body. I………..for the first time felt as though my face was on fire and that it had gone red and was a little embarrassed and all he did was say “Hey, hows it going?” and smile at me!!!! I don’t remember what I said back but I remember putting my head down and quickly walking to the dairy cooler to finish with my list for stocking the cooler on the floor. He had me hooked with just his smile!!!
Shortly after this happened, while I was stocking the cooler on the floor Tara (who was training me), came and started asking me questions……”do you have a boyfriend, how old are you, etc.”……..it wasn’t until she came back a second time with a few more questions did I realize she wasn’t just making conversation with me but asking questions for someone else!! 🙂
We had our first date on July 3rd and were inseparable and living together shortly after. It was as if we had known each other for years!! We just clicked and had a blast together, I enjoyed spending every spare moment with him!!!
We got married exactly 6 months to the day after we first met………December 18, 1993.
Now, after 20 years we have three wonderful boys who are all growing up so fast!!! The oldest is 19 and in college, the middle is 17 and a Junior in high school and our youngest is 15 and a Freshman in high school.
I’m NOT going to lie……..marriage isn’t easy. A few years ago when my mother got married for the third time she asked me what advice I had for her on marriage, after giving it some though I told her, “At times in the relationship it is more TAKE than GIVE, and at other times it is more GIVE than you TAKE.” You have to work at it and want it!!!! I feel that in our society today we have more divorces due to the fact of it’s easier to give up and much harder to work at keeping a marriage or relationship together. It is far easier to give up than fight for what you really want and people just seem to accept failure and quitting more often than not. I do believe that it takes two to make a marriage work and if you are not both willing to put forth the effort then something is wrong and missing. “If it is meant to be, it will be…….but you have to want it and fight for it!!”
Terry and I have had our ups and downs, our arguments and fights, we have had our good and bad times but we have always managed to work through anything and everything that life has thrown at us throughout the years, this I believe makes our bond stronger and our love grow deeper.
Terry is my ROCK, he is the one who puts up with my craziness, he is the one who puts up with my wild emotions (I am a Cancer after all), he is the one that reminds me to look at things differently if I am NOT looking at the big picture, he is the one who guides me and picks me up when I fall, he is the one that held my hand when I first saw my fathers casket, he is the one that is strong when I am weak, he is the one that calms me down and helps me think rationally, he is the one that I know will always be there, he is the one that despite my weirdness and quirky ways still loves me, he is the one who stays calm when I get mad, he is the one I look to for comfort, he is the one that has stolen my heart, he is the one that I am more in love with today then yesterday, he is the one I am growing old with, he is my one and only true love, he is the father of my children, he is my HUSBAND!!!!
I do NOT recommend knowing someone for 6 months and getting married. However, I do believe that it can work, we are proof that it can, you can find your love and know immediately (for others it takes time)! In any relationship you have to grow together, and in our case I was 18 and he was 20 so we not only grew as a couple but grew up together and have been raising a family for 19 years of our marriage. We still continue to grow as a couple and we are still growing up and older together. Is a person ever really grown up or are they just a little wiser?
I truly hope that everyone some day can experience the joy and happiness that can happen between two people that makes you grow as a person, that is the yin to your yang, that makes your life complete. Finding true love and being happy is what part of life is all about, who cares if you are married, who cares if it takes 10 years to find your soul mate, who cares if no one else likes your choice, who cares if you are the oddest couple around, who cares as long as YOU are truly happy!!!! There is more to life than worrying about what other people think!!
Life without my husband?!?! I cannot even imagine life without him! Who else could I complain to that would listen with one hand, offer advice in the other hand or tell me I’m being ridiculous with a simple look and yet at times listen to me complain but yet let it all go in one ear and out the other and still make me feel better for letting me complain even though it didn’t accomplish a thing!!??!! It is nice to have a companion to dream about what we will do together when the youngest is out of high school, 3 1/2 years to be exact. It is nice to make plans of traveling the US with our 2014 Indian Chieftain (our 20 year Anniversary gift). It is nice to have someone to make goals with on what we want for the future. It is just nicer than nice to have someone to be there for you and to have someone to lean on.
It is hard to believe that we have been together for 20 years already. It seems like just yesterday we got married, then the babies came and then they started school. Where has all the time gone? I swear it feels like every year goes by faster than the last. With my boys getting older and starting to leave home I have sat back and reflected on our lives together, we have accomplished a lot and we still continue to grow together, we have done a lot of things, we still have fun together, we still laugh together and we still enjoy being with each other and planning for our future, we still love each other!
I know that my husband Terry reads my posts, so today this post on my Blog I am dedicating to him……to you, my hubby…….for all your love and support, for loving me for who I am, for always taking care of your family, for being there when I need you, for growing up and older with me, for providing me with 3 wonderful boys and for being here to help me raise them, but most importantly, thank you for being my HUSBAND!!! Happy 20 Year Anniversary!!!
Luv ya, me…….your wife, Robin Robinson